Mommying Challenge Update

GOSH what can I say? It was an interesting ride with this challenge. When I first started, Day 1, it was on the same day as my son’s 13th birthday. I don’t know if that’s what made it not easier but made me more accountable? Maybe? The fact that I try to be extra aware and present on my kids birthdays especially.

Day 1/Don’t raise your voice:

I succeeded this challenge!!! Everyday, my kids were told what my challenge was for the day. I know some of you might think that it could backfire to tell my kids because they could be extra and use it against me, if anything LOL but I wanted someone other than myself to help hold me accountable. I’m glad I chose to tell them because they’d remind me “mom, your goal” and I’d be like “I know” lol!

This day, I did not raise my voice. It was a beach day for us over at my faves, Ko’olina beach. We spent a few relaxing, beautiful hours there. Then we celebrated with a very small dinner, cake and ice cream at home later that evening! Was feeling extremely accomplished and proud of myself. It felt good!

Day 2/Don’t complain for the day:

I failed this challenge! Ahhhhhh! It’s a shame to admit out loud! Day 2 and FAIL! My husband said I should’ve been more specific with my challenges, what I told him I complained about I guess he felt didn’t count. But it does! First thing in the morning on this day, we were all getting packed and things ready for our weekend at a beach house in Makaha, Oahu. We live in Nanakuli, Oahu, Makaha is about 15 minutes or so away.

In the midst of packing, mind you LAST MINUTE packing UGH, I was also trying to tidy up. It was when I said, “When you guys see things, you guys can pick it up without being told, I’m tired of bending down (because of my big belly of course LOL) and JUST LIKE THAT, I failed.

It doesn’t end there, though, we got over to the beach house and we were cooking for a birthday dinner for my son. I complained about the heat, how hot it was, the flies that irked me, there were so many, complained about a few more things that I can’t specifically remember but those were the ones I can. Point is, I failed this one this day. It made me realize how EASY it is to complain. How often we tend to do it and how sometimes, we really don’t even realize that we’re doing it. Until it’s maybe too late, like me!

Day 3/Spend 15 minutes of complete alone time:

I succeeded this challenge! This day was day 2 at our beach house. I made it a point in my mind to set aside some alone time, even if we were there on mini-vacay, I knew I still needed it!

After I laid my son down to nap, I read my verse of the day;

Hebrews 12:14

“Try to live peacefully with everyone, and try to live holy lives, because if you don’t, you will not see the Lord.”

Man did that hit me hard. Such a short verse that means so much. Hard to do sometimes, but the consequence, I would say, is even harder. I spent my alone time on this verse, dwelling on it, said a prayer, then scrolled through some IG before I took a short little nap!

Day 4/Spend time doing something Meyah likes WITH her:

I succeeded this challenge! This day, I remember the feeling. The challenge started to stress me out on this day, it started to feel like a burden. I found myself kind of stressing to get it done. I started over thinking and wondering “what can I do with Meyah, what does she like to do, what if we can’t do it here at the beach house?” Just overall, completely being extra in my head.

That’s when I knew I had to recheck and reanalyze what I was doing this for and the purpose behind it. It was to challenge myself as a mom but definitely not to do things out of obligation. So I made it simple instead of complicating things. I shot some hoops with my baby girl. Sometimes, I forget that it’s not just about where we are or what we’re doing, but most importantly, WHO we’re doing it with that matters.

In this case, she LOVES basketball. She played for our local park league and she loves the game. AND, she got to do it with her mommy. She was so happy. Played the game HORSE and PIG with her because this mama is ready to pop, cannot play an actual game and does not even know the game anyway LOL!

Day 5/Spend time doing something Mason loves WITH him:

I succeeded this challenge! The plan was to go fishing with him. I wanted him to even maybe teach me how to do the whole thing. Since I am completely clueless, but the water was just not set up this past weekend for a calm, friendly/pregnant-friendly fish. It was definitely too rough for me.

We enjoyed shave ice together. We all LOVE to grab some shave ice especially after a hot day at the beach. This was the day we packed up and left the beach house to go back home. We were in the mood for some shave ice and we got some. Though I didn’t spend time with him doing the fishing thing he loves, like I planned, we did something else together that we love, we love eating some shave ice! LOL!

Day 6/Spend 5-10 minutes on self-care:

I succeeded this challenge! It wasn’t much, but it was definitely relaxing, overdue after the long weekend we had and I enjoyed it! With my shower, I shaved LOL, shaved the legs and underarms. And I also enjoyed exfoliating my body with some of my orange peel exfoliating scrub. My current fave! It doesn’t take much self-care for me to feel great and this was short, sweet, quick and just what I needed!

Day 7/Wake up before the kids:

I failed this challenge! I failed this one hard. Here’s the thing, I had an intense debate with my oldest, my son Mason, about the fact that I in fact DID technically wake up before them. I was up at 630a and I was all happy because I was like YES! I did it! I succeeded my last day’s challenge. Felt so good.

However, LOL, after I read my verse of the day, I laid back down and fell back asleep, so my son said I can’t count it! LOL!!! And I couldn’t agree more! I know exactly what I meant when I made the challenge. Waking before them meaning being productive, doing some chores maybe and STAYING up until they got up and that didn’t happen. Pray for me on this one guys?? Will ya? Lol. Probably the hardest thing of them all is for me to get up before my kids DAILY. It is a definite and absolute goal of mine to master this!

So…..all in all, I am mutual about the way I feel. I don’t feel 100% great but I don’t feel horrible and down on myself either for not getting them all and succeeding at each one. I did fail 2 out of 7. However, I am still going to set goals for myself as a mom.

Maybe I’ll try this challenge again, soon. Maybe you can try it just to challenge yourself. It was a great experience. I learned a lot and analyzed more than I thought I would. I did things intentionally and it felt good and refreshing when the goal was met.

Let me know if you want to try this challenge yourself or if you already did. How did it go for you? Email me or comment below, I’d love to hear from you!

Til next time 😉

Monica <3

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